Monday, January 31, 2011
This all really got me thinking. Where did my son come up with these opinions if we didn't teach them to him? Are these really his opinions or is he just trying to get a rise out of people? Is it OK for me to ask him to remove things he posts? I have very little tolerance for hatred (I know that is like me hating hatred...) and I will not stand by and let it be OK. Sure, my son is still a minor but when he turns 18 soon is it going to be OK? Is he going to land himself in hot water over some tough guy talk online? While I cannot stop my son from saying things, I hope that he listens to my concerns and thinks before he speaks/posts. Maybe I am too concerned with what my kids are up to, but I feel it's my job to guide and protect them. I hope to keep the avenues of communication open and to be there when they need me. I'm going to stand tough and stand up against hatred and bullying!!
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Saturday, January 29, 2011
He did apply to this one position in management in the area he's been working in for the past several years. He was contacted for an interview last week and got confirmation this week that the interview was to be on Friday. He wanted to make sure he looked professional and thought he'd wear his blue blazer. I wasn't sure if guys wore them anymore so I did some searching online. We discovered that grey flannel or wool pants were the best bet to go with the blazer. He has Docker type pants, but not any dressy slacks so we went shopping last Saturday. I knew Bergner's was having a good sale and I knew the guy that worked in the men's department there was very knowledgeable on mens fashion. The guy was swamped with customers but we waited and he helped find the right fitting pants for DH. Since it's winter he decided to forgo a tie and wear a sweater instead. I think he looked very nice & professional (and sexy...can I put that on my blog???) A few months ago he wouldn't have worn argyle, but I am glad I talked him into it!!Anyway, right after I took this photo he told me that he posted about his interview on FB. WHAT? I totally freaked out. He had said that he wasn't going to tell anyone about the interview. He told me to go post the pic and tag him as he was talking out the door. OMG~ I was a bundle of NERVES!!! I ran to FB and read that he posted about the specific position he was interviewing for...that freaked me out even more! But there is something you need to know about my hubby and I...we really balance each other. When faced with something stressful only one of us will freak out at a time. One stresses and the other doesn't. That doesn't mean that one of us is always stressed out and the other is calm, but at challenging times that is the case. (Like when we travel...I'm usually the calm one!) I knew that my freaking out meant that DH was completely calm with his interview. I wasn't worried about how he'd do at the interview (I'd knew he'd do a great job and they'd like him...he's a super likable guy), I was just nervous about people knowing and just nervous for him. Any nervousness he might have had was transferred to me right before he walked out the door.
So when he got home 3 hours later...guess what? He was CALM! He said the interview went well and he wasn't nervous at all. He was not surprised that I was an emotional wreck. He told me all the details and how well it went. He ended up knowing/having a connection with everyone on the interview committee and his one-on-one one with the supervisor went well. They are interviewing 5 people total which means there is no hook up. (Sometimes these positions are posted even though they know who they are going to hire...in which case they will interview 2 or 3.) Hubby said that if they don't hire him then they are getting a super fantastic candidate. He also feels that he made a good impression so if there is a stronger candidate for this position then they might consider him for other positions in the future. I am proud of him!!
So it took me a while to calm down from my nerves. Once I talked to him I wasn't nervous anymore, but my tummy was still in knots. In fact, it really hurt after I had some lunch. I didn't end up eating any dinner until 8:30. I took a little cat nap (12 mins to be exact) around 3pm and then we walked the dog which really helped me out. But by the time we went to bed I was exhausted. I looked back at the day and realized that I did not accomplish much, but I was a very supportive wife! LOL! DH hopes to hear within a week about the position. They didn't talk about a start date, but it's another department within the company so he'd be able to transfer over soon. It would be awesome on a few levels. First all the benefits would be the same and we wouldn't have to change insurance or anything. He'd keep all the vacation & sick days (they get A LOT!! Even after taking 5 weeks off last summer for Alaska he has over 30 days on the books now!). We are assuming that pay would be higher as it's management and he now has a masters. AND~ how kewl would it be to get a 'promotion' so soon after completing his Masters? With the economy he figured he'd be stuck where he is for a while. The only way to get a bump in pay is to get promoted...no increase for just getting his masters due to the nature of the position.
Anyway, I am super proud of my hubby and I hope he gets the position!!
Friday, January 28, 2011
Speaking of sleep and school, yesterday was hibernation day at Dori's school. We all got to wear our jammies and hide out in the cave all morning. The kids were super cute and excited to be in their jammies. They each brought a stuffed animal and a book. Here are a few cute shots from the day.
I wish we could have stayed in PJs all day, but we couldn't. Today might be a PJ day!!
Monday, January 24, 2011
Mango Beef Stir Fry
minced mixture (garlic, onion, ginger)
veggies (we used frozen asparagus & cauliflower)
corn starch (I mix in a seperate container with water)
-heat oil in wok
-add in minced mixture (1-2 TBS?)
-add beef after the mixture has cooked a little
-just let the beef cook on one side at a time and turn to cook the other side, don't stir it around
-add a little OJ and let that cook a little with lid on
-add frozen veggies, let it steam/cook
-add some soy sauce and stir it in
-after that's cooked up a little add the corn starch to thicken the liquid, turn the heat down right away to a simmer
-add in oyster sauce (2-3 teaspoons, I'd guess) and stir in
We serve it over white rice. We usually do broccoli and chicken, but I used a little creativity this time. I think it turned out well!
Saturday, January 22, 2011
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Friday, January 21, 2011
- 1 cup ground pecans
- 1/2 cup grated parmesan cheese
- 1/2 teaspoon garlic salt
- 1/2 teaspoon dried leaf basil, crumbled
- lemon juice for dipping
- 4 boneless chicken breast halves, pounded to make flat and even in thickness
- 2 tablespoons Olive oil
Place lemon juice in another shallow dish. Dip chicken in juice, then coat with pecan mixture.
In large non-stick skillet, heat oil til moderately hot. Add chicken; cook 3 to 5 minutes on each side or until golden and cooked through.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Cabbage Beef Casserole
- 2 lb hamburger (ground beef)
- 1 medium onion, chopped fine
- Salt and pepper to taste
- 1 small can tomato sauce
- 2 tomato sauce cans of water
- 2 beef bouillon cubes or equivalent of beef bouillon granules
- 1 head cabbage, shredded
Brown hamburger meat with chopped onion. Drain and season with salt and pepper to taste. Put tomato sauce in separate bowl. Dissolve bouillon cubes into cans of water and add to soup. Stir until smooth. Layer ground beef, shredded cabbage and tomato sauce bouillon mixture in 9 X 13 baking dish. Bake approximately 1 hour at 350.
Monday, January 17, 2011
The teen has been in and out all weekend. Dori & I have just been hanging out. I started having wrist pain on Friday afternoon and thought that maybe it was carpal tunnel, but I am not sure. I've iced & rested it quite a bit this weekend and they feel better this morning. With it being so cold this winter I've been inside and online quite a bit which I think is adding stress to my wrists. I need to limit my time on the computer! That means I need to be more purposeful with what I do online. I don't want my business to suffer!
Hope you've had a nice weekend!
Saturday, January 15, 2011
I will admit it. When I heard about the Loughners in Tucson being horrified by their son's actions I thought~ How could they not have known that their child was a danger? How could they be so oblivious to his actions? Were they bad parents? What kind of dysfunctions are going on in that home? Is there mental illnesses in the family? But I also wondered if they were aware that he was out of control. What could they do about it?
Being a parent I know there comes a time when you don't have control over your child's actions. It may be that you never have control of your child's actions in the first place, but when they are younger they usually follow your rules and consequences. We can still get our younger two children to do things. They don't want to get in trouble and will usually pick up the toy, quiet down, or whatever we request. Our teen is on the other side of that bridge. Yes, we can request that he do things and take things away from him if he doesn't...but the stress of that kind of relating isn't worth it. Yes, we do have expectations of him that he understands and that he follows, but what if he refused? What if he refused to get out of bed for school or what if he skipped out of his classes? Could we lift him out of bed and make him go? Could we physically force him to stay in the school building? Fortunately we don't have these issues with our child, but I do remember an incident a few months ago that DH & I did not agree on. The teen called for a ride home and I went to pick him up. I showed up and he decided he wanted to stay longer and hang out with friends. He got a little mouthy with me and I said that if he wanted a ride that he needed to come home then. He was trying to show off in front of his friends and was rude to me and walked away from the vehicle. I left. When I got home DH said that I should have made him come home. REALLY? How do you make a kid that is bigger than you get in the car? I am not going to make idol threats and I am not going to carry him into the car. The teen arrived home before his curfew and we had a discussion that included my expectations of being treated respectfully. He has been more respectful since then. Things have been more peaceful overall in our home since we've stopped 'trying' to get our kid to do 'what we want'.
I am not comparing my child to others. I am just giving an example of how you can't make your child do something. And as this article points out, what if your child has some kind of mental illness that you can find or there isn't enough support/help for? What would you do?
What if you do know there is something seriously wrong? What if you fear for your life or the lives of others? Can you just call the authorities to take care of it? Who are the authorities?
There are no definitive answers to these questions. I am sure that anyone who reads this will have a different opinion of how you would handle it or what should happen to Jared. The Loughners could be fabulous parents. I think we are good parents but what if our child makes a decision to do something stupid? Does that mean we are bad parents? Are we bad parents because our kids do things that disappoint us? No, our kids disappoint us, therefore we are parents!
Thursday, January 13, 2011
I spent a few months searching for the right panel and/or stained glass artist. Most of that searching was on Etsy. I fav'd several shops and items but I could not find something that would fit above the sink. I ended up contacting 2 shop owners at Etsy and explained what I was looking for. Both had suggestions for me, but I really like what Addy at Sandhill Shores Studio had to offer. I was able to find various bits of things I liked from several of her creations and she came up with a great design for me.I wanted a few colors from our Tiffany light fixture to be included, but I didn't want it to be completely mission/prairie style. I really liked the circles that I saw in many of Addy's creations and she incorporated them as well as a large bevel into my design.
Here are pictures of the panel that Addy took before she shipped my panel.Here are photos of it hanging in our window. I wish I was a better photographer! The sun is so far south right now, but it will be interesting to watch the different shadows and colors that are cast throughout the year. I realized today that we hung it backwards! Although I think it will look good either way.Here is a cool reflection that it cast on the wall the other morning.Here are pics we took yesterday.Yes~ my neighbor's house isn't the prettiest thing, but I look up at the sky through the window and don't really notice it!
Updated: Here is a photo I just took this morning! I am loving these COOL reflections from the bevel!!
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
* 5 green onions, chopped, divided
* 1 tomato, chopped, divided
* 1 package bacon
* 1 cup sliced fresh mushrooms
* Dozen eggs
* 1/3 cup Sour Cream
* 1/2 cup cheddar cheese
* 1 cup shredded mozzarella cheese
Preheat oven to 325 degrees F.
Set aside 2 Tbsp. each of chopped tomatoes and onions. Cook bacon until crisp and set aside. Keep about 1 Tbsp of bacon grease in your skillet and add mushrooms cooking for a few minutes, then remove from heat. Crumble bacon and add it along with onions and tomatoes to the skillet.
Beat eggs and sour cream until well blended. Pour into a greased 9X13 inch baking dish. Top with bacon mixture, then cheeses.
Bake for 30 minutes or until center is set. Top with the remaining green onions and tomatoes.
I altered the recipe a little. I didn't have sour cream, so I used skim milk. I used regular instead of green onions and ham instead of bacon. I also added spinach. I didn't use any mozzarella cheese at all, so I increased the amount of swiss I used. I also turned off the oven and left the pan in until the top started to brown. Prep was easy as I used my new food processor for the onion & cheese. I hope that it freezes and reheats. I plan on dividing it into individual servings and freezing.
Monday, January 10, 2011
Saturday, January 8, 2011
One thing I like to do (which helps turn my brain off before I go to sleep) is to watch a show online. Since many of my regular shows were reruns for the past month or so I went in search of some new stuff online. I recently found House Hunters listed at the front page on Hulu. I've enjoyed trying to guess which house the people were going to pick in their house hunt. I don't think it's a show I would be interested in if we hadn't recently remodeled our house and gotten it to where we love it. Otherwise I'd have house envy. I've scrolled through and watched all available episodes. I did get a recommendation of a similar show which I watched last night, My First Place, but that didn't grab me like House Hunters.
Do you ever watch Hulu/shows online? Or do you have cable channels with lots of options? How do you turn your brain off at night before you go to sleep?
Friday, January 7, 2011
"Adoption loss is the only trauma in the world where the victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful." - Rev. Keith C Griffith, MBE
Here is a response left by another adoptive parent~
"Non-adoption friends...please think about this and keep it in mind the next time you tell an adopted person how "lucky" they are, or adoptive parents how "good" they are for adopting... their "luck...y" child."
"We aren't so good...we are just parents. Just because we came to parenthood differently than you did, that doesn't make us any better or worse as parents or as people..."
I couldn't agree more! We do get comments about how lucky we are or how lucky our daughter is. People act like it was a noble gesture to adopt. There are many reason why people adopt, and for each person it's a very personal decision. We were driven by our desire to have another child. The details are really no one's business. People don't need to ask how much we paid to adopt, why didn't her mom want her, if we weren't able to get pregnant, etc. We have been asked this IN FRONT of our child. While I want to say, "It's none of your damned business!" or snark back with a, "How did you get pregnant and how much did your birth cost?" or similar, I won't. I don't want my child associating her beginnings/life to negativity or shame. Admit it, we've all been curious about people we see... Is that a child's parent or grandparent? I wonder if that child is adopted? Are they twins? Where are they from? Why is that child's last name different? YES~ it's natural to be curious. But check that curiosity at the door and don't ask.
While I type this post the comments on the top quote (which I posted on FB) are building. Many of my FB friends are adoptive parents and they understand! One friend mentioned at an adult friend of hers who was adopted as a toddler is very bitter about this expectation of society. I can understand!
Do you like it when people tell you how you should feel?
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Speaking of house, I haven't talked much about it in a while. We are slowly but surely getting everything done. DH stained the new stairs and installed them over break. Not a great photo (from my phone), but you get the idea~
Sunday, January 2, 2011
As usual I was busy with the party and socializing so I didn't get many photos. I wish we had gotten a family photo. I did have my son take a photo of Eric & I when we got home. Yup...the tree is still up. I am too tired to take it down today...maybe we will get it down one night this week. I think this is a good photo!